The older I get, the more divisive society seems to get, especially in the Western world. In recent years I’ve started to see many women blame men for almost everything under the sun. While many men do deserve to be called out, there are many cases where men get wrongly blamed for being bad, even when they’re doing something good.

Here are just a couple of situations I’ve come across recently.

The foot massage

Woman in office: When I got home from work yesterday, my husband gave me an amazing foot massage.

Other women in the office: What a wonderful husband you have. I wish my husband gave me foot massages after work. You’re a lucky woman.

Another woman in the office: My husband had a tough day at work yesterday so I gave him a foot massage when he got home. It really helped him to relax.

Other women in the office: What are you, some kind of doormat? Does your husband think that a wife is there just to pander to his every whim? FFS, tell him to massage his own feet next time. It’s not your job.

Do you see any double standards here? Why do some women think that another woman giving their boyfriend or husband a foot massage means they’re allowing themselves to be treated like a doormat?

My wife and I regularly give each other massages. Isn’t that what loving couples do?

Secrecy

Woman: My boyfriend has been a bit secretive lately. Whenever I ask where he’s been, he’s always evasive and doesn’t want to answer.

Other women: There’s obviously something going on. He’s probably having an affair. If I was you, I’d dump him. There’s no reason for him to be keeping secrets from you.

Man: My girlfriend has been a bit secretive lately. When I ask where she’s been, she’s always evasive and doesn’t want to answer.

Other women: What the f*ck is wrong with you? Why are you acting in such a controlling manner towards your girlfriend? Isn’t she allowed out without you knowing exactly where she’s going? I bet you’d love to fit a tracking device to her so that you can follow her every step. I hope she dumps you. You’re despicable.

Any double standards here? Why do some women think that women are allowed some privacy in their lives but men aren’t?

Don’t shoot the messenger.